Change

Life has been interesting recently.  It has taken me much longer than I expected to readjust to a new normal.  I honestly think that I thought that within a couple of weeks after the wedding that things would be taken care of and life would feel normal.  But there are just too many changes taking place for that to be true. Obviously there are the the post wedding projects like changing my name and writing thank you notes and the big changes like moving and DH's med school applications, but everything else feels in flux as well. My work is evolving quite significantly now that I am done with quals. I have submitted a paper to be published and started two new projects.  I have been accepted to give a presentation at our national conference and am planning on applying to a second conference this fall.  Fall classes start in two weeks and I am signed up to TA my first class in the spring.  Additionally most of my work friends are a year or more older than me and are starting to prepare for graduation at the end of the year.

Around us, a good friend of mine in town has recently gotten into a serious relationship and another close friend is getting married at the end of the month. DH's sister is getting married in October and his best man had a daughter this summer. My brother's wife is due any day now and my other brother just moved to the other side of the country.

This past weekend we drove down to visit and say goodbye to many of DH's grad school friends. Several are planning to graduate with him and one is moving to England for a tenure track position. The weekend before that we drove 8 hours each way to visit my grandmother who isn't feeling well.  In both cases it was lovely to see people but life certainly does not "feel normal".

Anyways, married life is weird so far. I do not mean to say anything bad about DH. We are thrilled to have gotten married and are excited to be living together. I have no questions or worries about being married but it is more of an adjustment than I expected. Being married and living together is different. Talks about finances and chores and future jobs are different.  I didnt really expect it and I can't exactly explain HOW it feels different...but as in everything else right now, things are changing. I like it...I'm just not used to it yet.